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October 09 2019


15 Things You Need To Know About People Who Have Concealed Anxiety | Thought Catalog

1. They don’t hide their anxiety, they hide their symptoms. To have concealed anxiety isn’t to deny having it – only to do everything in your power to ensure other people don’t see you struggle.

2. They have the most anxiety about having anxiety. Because they are not comfortable letting people see them in the throes of an irrational panic, the most anxiety-inducing idea is… whether or not they’ll have anxiety at any given moment in time.

3. They come across as a paradoxical mix of outgoing but introverted, very social but rarely out. It is not that they are anti-social, just that they can only take being around others incrementally (which is mostly normal). Yet, on the surface, this may come across as confusing.

4. They make situations worse by trying to suppress their feelings about them. They are extremely uncomfortable with other people seeing them in pain, and they don’t want to feel pitied or as though they are compromising anyone’s time. Yet, they make things worse for themselves by suppressing, as it actually funnels a ton of energy into making the problem larger and more present than it already was.

5. They are often hyper-aware and highly intuitive. Anxiousness is an evolutionary function that essentially keeps us alive by making us aware of our surroundings and other people’s motives. It’s only uncomfortable when we don’t know how to manage it effectively – the positive side is that it makes you hyper-conscious of what’s going on around you.

6. Their deepest triggers are usually social situations. It’s not that they feel anxious in an airplane, it’s that they feel anxious in an airplane and are stuck around 50 other people. It’s not that they will fail a test, but that they will fail a test and everyone in school will find out and think they are incompetent and their parents will be disappointed. It’s not that they will lose love, but that they will lose love and nobody will ever love them again.

7. It is not always just a “panicked feeling” they have to hide. It can also be a tendency to worry, catastrophizing, etc. The battle is often (always?) between competing thoughts in their minds.

8. They are deep thinkers, and great problem-solvers. One of the benefits of anxiety is that it leads you to considering every worst case scenario, and then subsequently, how to handle or respond to each.

9. They are almost always “self-regulating” their thoughts. They’re talking themselves in, out, around, up or down from something or another very often, and increasingly so in public places.

10. They don’t trust easily, but they will convince you that they do. They want to make the people around them feel loved and accepted as it eases their anxiety in a way.

11. They tend to desire control in other areas of their lives. They’re over-workers or are manically particular about how they dress or can’t really seem to let go of relationships if it wasn’t their idea to end them.

12. They have all-or-nothing personalities, which is what creates the anxiety. Despite being so extreme, they are highly indecisive. They try to “figure out” whether or not something is right before they actually try to do it.

13. They assume they are disliked. While this is often stressful, it often keeps them humble and grounded at the same time.

14. They are very driven (they care about the outcome of things). They are in equal proportions as in control of their lives as they feel out of control of their lives – this is because they so frequently try to compensate for fear of the unknown.

15. They are very smart, but doubt it. A high intelligence is linked to increased anxiety (and being doubtful of one’s mental capacity are linked to both).
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October 05 2019

*taps mic, err, soup* this thing still on?

ps: still alive, still not a polar bear
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May 14 2014


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March 30 2014


August 29 2013


my usual approach is useless here

hello, hello, long time no post. again.
due to unreasonable demands on my time management skills (sleep. i need sleep.), my usual approach to souping results in no posts at all. the usual approach is: collect a shitload of tabs, post content in a way that there is some kind of connection from one post to the next. probably not even noticeably to anyone else but incredibly fun to me. (it's not apophenia if you're making the patterns yourself!) just, i don't have the time to do that anymore so i decided to get over it and start posting like a statistically normal person again, that is, throw content at it until the soup servers collapse. ;)
here's hoping that i'll soon stop feeling be-anguished about having to give up my beloved style of posting, seeing as a speshul posting procedure that precludes one from posting anything in the first place isn't really a good thing. (it just feels so ...weird.)

June 18 2013


May 22 2013


in which the author forgot how to succinct at being brief

trying to catch up with what's been floating through the souposphere the last few weeks, because you can't spell anxiety without procrastination (well you could but i'm playing a game of scrabble against *life* and i'm going. to. win).
so, should any new posts include things that have been making the rounds, like, a fortnight ago (and for reasons that don't need exploring at this juncture they *will* but that's probably a story for another run-on sentence, i guess we'll see how far i can take this one before it breaks like a badly chosen simile), that'd be the reason why.
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February 08 2013

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flag counter thingie made a funny.

(also, have reached one hundred freaking fifty countries. upon reflection, i imagine that pleases me.)
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January 31 2013

the days when all you can do is just try to hang on to your shit and wait how far you'll plunge towards the bottom
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January 07 2013

books read in 2012

in chronological order*:
  • Temeraire: Victory of Eagles (N. Novik) [history au series -- napoleonic wars, with dragons. the series starts close to, uh, canon and then veers off towards new horizons, so to speak.]
  • Bone (J. Smith) [the one-volume edition; re-read for most of it. love the first half more than the second. which is an awful lot.]
  • The Sword in the Stone (T.H. White) [arthurian legend, the good parts version]
  • The Hippopotamus (Stephen Fry) [accidental re-read -- had forgotten that i'd read it before. good read, but not very memorable i guess.]
  • Temeraire: Tongues of Serpents (N. Novik)
  • Naked (D. Sedaris) [re-read for at least the fourth time]
  • Good Omens (T. Pratchett & N. Gaiman) [ditto]
  • The True Meaning of Smekday (A. Rex) [if i could only recommend one new book read last year, i'd recommend this one. had a lot of fun reading, *and* it's smart about a lot of the -isms -- which is something i've come to a) notice and 2) appreciate.]
  • The Language Instinct (S. Pinker) [woot, a non-fiction i actually finished! pretty comprehensibly written, though not sure how difficult it is for complete linguisitcs noobs.)
  • Shades of Grey (J. Fforde) [haha no, the book you're thinking of is 50 shades of grey. which isn't confusing at all. interesting premise but i found the characters not a bit engaging, the main character least of all.]
  • In Other Worlds (M. Atwood) [sci-fi/fantasy meta, yay]
  • The Time Traveller's Wife (A. Niffenegger) [re-read for the second time, still as good as i remembered it.]
  • The Hunger Games (S. Collins) [well, it's definitely a fast read. i might've liked it more if it wasn't first person pov but it's alright. will read the sequels if i can get my hands on them, but not buy them.]

* this list only contains books
- finished in 2012,
- that i read for fun,
- in dead-tree format.
other than bone, i didn't count any comics or graphic novels (but the complete edition clocks in at 1000+ pages, so.) also not counted: anything read in digital format, including about a squintillion of fanfics. also, i can't shake the feeling of having reread oryx and crake somewhen but maybe that was the year before.

December 16 2012

assongssination, n:
1. killing me softly with this song;
2. no, i can't get you out of my head;
3. do you hear the people sing
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December 04 2012

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November 14 2012


October 07 2012

my teeth are all crooked
my smiles look all wrong
they told me it's just my perception that's flawed

and then i got braces
now it's all straightened out
and still i sometimes feel like a fraud

and then sometimes, you have to deal with one of  those vicious fuckers, wisdom teeth growing sideways, knocking everything out of place again

[this is not about teeth]

September 30 2012


My first instinct when I see an animal is to say “hello”.

My first instinct when I see a person is to avoid eye contact and hope it goes away.

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September 29 2012

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September 28 2012

September 25 2012


I think I have awake apnea

it’s like sleep apnea where you forget to breathe while you’re asleep except that i’m awake and sometimes that instinct shit just doesn’t kick in

the longer i run the less that i find

yup. good to finally having a name for that thing where i'm too dumb to breathe
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